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pleasure. If we choose to give in to sexual temptation with regularity, the rush it provides becomes addictive. The physical effect of it is self-medicating as the body releases a potent blend of endorphins, adrenaline and oxytoxin. Training the body to demand sexual release makes the body a terrible master. By the time you marry, your body will demand sex in the marriage bed. Demanding sex is a form of control, and control and love cannot coexist in an intimate relationship. Sex on demand perpetuates the lie to women that “all men want is sex”and in men that“when a woman wants sex, she is manipulating me into something else.” Believing these lies dooms a person to reap their ugly fruit. When one party feels controlled, it removes the sense of safety that allows both partners to fully relax in the joy of sexual union. The formation of a sexual addiction sets up a cycle of iniquity that results in a generational curse which reaches down generational lines to our children and sets them up to be seduced in the area of their sexuality. For example, when sexual sin produces a child conceived outside of marriage, that child experiences “the curse of illegitimacy.” This curse can flow down the family line for generations (Exodus 34:5-7) bearing unwanted fruit and can even cause its victims to feel rejected and behave like it, too. Isn’t it wonderful that our Lord Jesus became a curse for us so that by thorough repentance and identifying with his death on the cross and his resurrection we may be totally free of this sin and its cruel curse? Far better, is walking in sexual purity now which causes a blessing that flows not only into your life, but to a 1,000 generations of your descendants. Which kind of inheritance are you leaving your children? lustful fantasy can define the pathway of your future sexual arousal. The most common method in our society of negative sexual imprinting is pornography. Pornography depicts all kinds of sexual perversion, and the purveyors of porn want to burn into you a desire for what you see. Viewing porn leads to the temptation to masturbate, to relieve oneself sexually. Masturbation insures that the pornographic images that aroused you are seared into your memory cells. Porn is as powerful and addictive as heroin requiring the user to increase the dosage and intensity of the images in order to get the fix. Because sexual imprinting has an escalating effect, people who use porn frequently become compelled to act out their fantasies to find release. Studies by the FBI confirm that the number one profile characteristic common to all serial killers is the use of pornography. Porn is rife with illicit images of every kind of sexual perversion including same-sex attraction, sadomasochism (sex and pain), pedophilia (child molestation), sodomy, and sex with multiple partners, sexual domination and even bestiality. Children are natural imitators. When they begin experimenting with these perverted images at an impressionable age, the stage is set for a lifetime of sexual deviancy. If a child becomes a victim of sexual abuse, the trauma that results can shut down healthy sexuality for a lifetime through negative sexual imprinting. “If God designed it, shouldn’t Spirit- filled Christian married couples be having the best sex on planet earth?” How Premarital Sex Destroys Sexual imprinting is like a snapshot of everything your senses experience during a sexual event. That snapshot is stored in your memory. When you become sexually aroused again, those images invade your thoughts and feelings because they are imbedded into your sexual response. If the sexual imprinting involved hurt, pain, guilt or shame, then all of those feelings will be stirred up the next time you have sex, even when making love to your marriage partner years later. Fantasizing about sex can also produce these effects. Sexual imprinting has another undesirable side effect. It can set the grid for what turns you on. Thus, any kind of premature “sexperimentation” and even We frequently see a more common fruit of negative sexual imprinting among married couples who have had premarital sexual experiences with someone other than their spouse or have also developed the habit of fantasizing about sex. No matter how hard they try to focus on their mate during lovemaking, their minds wander to memories and images of the past. These memories have an ongoing controlling influence over the only intimate sexual relationship that ought to feel safe and uncompromised. If you fantasize about someone else during marital sex, it is a form of adultery which causes your spouse to feel a sense of betrayal that is as real to them as if you were actually carrying on an adulterous affair. Unless the couple seeks help, a marital crisis is knocking at the door. S TF - 1 1

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