GRAND Magazine - November/December 2010 - (Page 24)

Do’s and don’ts in discipline your grandkids’ health Have your opinions changed? BY ANATOLY BELILOVSKY, M.D. P opular views on child discipline change over time. Parents from different generations can have very different ideas, from “Spare the rod, spoil the child” to “Children should be seen and not heard” to “ruling with praise.” If you’ve changed your opinions about the following discipline dilemmas, GRAND would like to hear from you at Crying at night: pick up and comfort vs. “cry it out” Everyone wakes up during the night— babies, children and adults. When you wake up at night for any reason, the last thing you need is for someone to come in and entertain you. The same goes for babies 6 months and older; picking them up is just preventing them from falling back to sleep. Granted, children may want to be picked up and comforted, but being entertained at night is just one of many things that they may want but really don’t need. 24 GRAND NOV DEC 2010 Ruling with discipline or with love: spank vs. spoil Dr. Spock advised parents to treat their children as individuals and respect them; he was against strict discipline and spanking. Opponents said that Spock’s ideas would lead to spoiled children. Later he was blamed for a generation of rebellious youth in the 1960s. However, this misses the entire point: spanking is a marker of parental failure. Boundaries of behavior need not be overly restrictive, but they should not be movable on a whim. The spoiled child isn’t the one who uses all the latitude allowed to them but one who succeeds in increasing the latitude beyond that originally intended. Temper tantrums: address vs. ignore The best way to put an end to tantrums is to make them useless. Between 6 months and 2 years, children learn to Share this article with your friends.

Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of GRAND Magazine - November/December 2010

Grand - Nov/Dec 2010
Table of Contents
Grand View
Grand Treasure Hunt
Grand Central
2010 Holiday Gift Guide
Cover Story
Rx for Trouble
Your Grandkids’ Health
Grandma’s Off Her Rocker
Dr. Marion
Book Review
Comfort in the Kitchen
Grand Giggles
Grandparent Rights
Kinship Care
Grand Finale

GRAND Magazine - November/December 2010