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approach (I don’t know anything;
I’m dumb like a fox).
I figure once I go postal on
someone (Rambo), I can’t take
it back. It’s OK by me if I am
considered the dumbest person
in the room because, that way,
I’m the least threatening.
3. Have a sense of humor!
“When I was a little girl…”
starts many of my corrective
interactions. My use of humor
gets their attention. The idea
is to do what it takes to communicate.
So, when the 3-yearold
tells you a gorilla came in
through the window and spilled
her milk, and that she didn’t do
it, avoid the urge to get a confession.
Instead, try something
like, “Well, that dumb gorilla
didn’t clean it up very well, so
I guess we had better. And by
the way, what are you going to
do so he doesn’t spill your milk
again?”
5. Translate. “She must
stop taking my stuff without
permission!” becomes “I
agree it would be nice if she
asked first. What can we do to
make that happen?” When one
blames someone or something
John with grandkids Kathryn and Jane
for making them feel sad or
frustrated, I ask her, “How did
you get that reaction?” I’ll also
ask “what if” questions, such as
“What if you laughed instead,
or walked away, or…?” The purpose
is to help her see she has
some control over her reaction,
and can change it.
6. Enjoy them! I’ve often
said that once they get to first
or second grade, they think
they are too sophisticated to
appreciate my nonsense. Now
when I say, “When I was a little
girl...,” the 11-year-old rolls her
eyes. Luckily, she plays along
with my nonsense with the
younger one and seems to
like being in on it. I’m seeing
from both a strong sense of
confidence, a great sense of
humor and good flexibility in
thinking.
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GRAND - May/June 2011
Grand Treasure Hunt
Table of Contents
Grand View
Grand Central
Rational Grandkids? Yes!
Bragging Rights
Cover Story: A Force For Good
Charlie & Gaytha Hillman: Grand Entrepreneurs
Improving Medicare
Grand Products
Growing Old vs. Growing Up
Too Old For Sex?
Kids as Caregivers
My Way or the Highway
Kinship Care
Find Fun Things To Do
Straight Talk on Disabilities
Look for the Moon in the Morning
Toys ’n Tech
Grand Finale
Op-Ed: Is Sex Forever?
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - intro
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - GRAND - May/June 2011
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GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 3
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Grand Treasure Hunt
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Table of Contents
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Grand View
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 7
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Grand Central
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 9
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 10
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 11
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Rational Grandkids? Yes!
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 13
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Bragging Rights
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 15
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 16
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 17
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 18
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Cover Story: A Force For Good
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 20
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 21
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Charlie & Gaytha Hillman: Grand Entrepreneurs
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 23
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Improving Medicare
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 25
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Grand Products
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 27
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Growing Old vs. Growing Up
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 29
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Too Old For Sex?
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 31
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Kids as Caregivers
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 33
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 34
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 35
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - My Way or the Highway
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 37
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 38
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 39
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 40
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Find Fun Things To Do
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Straight Talk on Disabilities
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 43
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Look for the Moon in the Morning
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 45
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Toys ’n Tech
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 47
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Grand Finale
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 49
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - Op-Ed: Is Sex Forever?
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 51
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 52
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 53
GRAND Magazine - May/June 2011 - 54
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