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AVOIDING PROBLEMS
Mark Dellinger, a Roanoke attorney with the
hodes, utler
ellinger law firm who special-
i es in elder law, lists five suggestions on avoiding
serious end of life con ict for caregivers and their
families. ere is his list.
. isit your parent regularly.
Kathy Wolford and Dr. Brian Unwin of Carilion: "When money is
involved, invariably the most bitter and awful [disputes arise]."
. ccasionally meet with your siblings without
your spouses present.
. ire professionals and have all interested
persons be involved, sub ect to the confidentiality wishes of parent.
. f a sibling offers to show you a history of
she says, "it is rooted in patient
autonomy.
"It is not so much nerve-wracking as heart-wrenching," says
Wolford.
"When money is involved, invariably the most bitter and awful
[disputes arise]. But that is in the
minority," Unwin says. "Every
family is different, but in America
we tend to plan for life-the good
times-and not for the bad times.
We prepare pre-natal by painting
rooms, buying clothing; we plan
for vacations. Do Americans plan
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transactions or to make something transparent,
take him up on it.
.
o not assume the worst motive of your
sibling upon learning of some change in circumstances. -DS
to retire, plan for bad times, how
life will end? No."
Legal problems
"Equitable is not always equal,"
says Mark Dellinger of the Roanoke law firm of Rhodes, Butler
& Dellinger, which specializes in
family law. "People attach love to
inheritance but sometimes one
child makes a much greater contribution to the life of the parent
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Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of The Roanoker - January/February 2016
Letters/Worth a Click
From the Editor
From our Readers
Recollection
Events
57 Things We Love About Roanoke
Young Professionals are Making a Difference in Roanoke
Boomer Challenge: Caring for Aging Parents
The Strup Home at Smith Mountain Lake
Is Fortunato Changing the Face of Roanoke Dining?
The Dish
Where are They Now?
Special Section: Valley Life
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - Intro
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - Cover1
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - Cover2
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 3
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 4
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 5
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 6
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 7
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 8
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 9
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - Letters/Worth a Click
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 11
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - From the Editor
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 13
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - From our Readers
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 15
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - Recollection
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 17
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - Events
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 19
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 57 Things We Love About Roanoke
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 21
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 22
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 23
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 24
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 25
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 26
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 27
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - Young Professionals are Making a Difference in Roanoke
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 29
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 30
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 31
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 32
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 33
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 34
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 35
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - Boomer Challenge: Caring for Aging Parents
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 37
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 38
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 39
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 40
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 41
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - The Strup Home at Smith Mountain Lake
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 43
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 44
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 45
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 46
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 47
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The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - Special Section: Valley Life
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The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 53
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - Is Fortunato Changing the Face of Roanoke Dining?
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The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 56
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 57
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The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - 63
The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - The Dish
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The Roanoker - January/February 2016 - Where are They Now?
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