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Laura Pole: "When the
last thing is wonderful, it
cancels the worst thing."
call 'anticipatory grief.' That's
because grief is an emotional,
physical, spiritual, and social
response to a loss or the perception/anticipation of a loss.
So when someone dies, there
is grief, and when someone is
dying, there is grief."
But there is no grief template. "Everybody does it differently," she says. "Just as our
fingerprints are unique, so are
His mother's death has
changed David, he says. "It
has made me more thoughtful about the fragility of life."
our grief journeys."
Trying to anticipate grief reactions can be frustrating because "there are at least 30 or
more factors that determine
how someone reacts to a particular loss," says Ranson. In conMAY/JUNE 2016 | 73