The Roanoker - November/December 2017 - 107
BFF | THE REAL THING
ments and for a while the kids were separate. "We'd
hang out when we didn't have the kids," says Simon.
The friendship developed steadily and with a solid base.
"I have to force myself to do things with other people,"
says Stephanie, "but there is nothing I do that I want
to do without him ... even if it's going to a dress shop."
"I'm myopic and single focused," says Simon. "She
balances that. I'm an introvert; she's an extrovert. I like
people, but I don't know how to approach them." She
does. "There is a romance. There's a lot of polarity that
allows me to be a dufus. She gets my insecurities. She
allows me to 'do things stupid.' I get that marriage is
supposed to be that way." But isn't always.
"My ex-husband and I were not best friends," says
Stephanie. "But now I find friend/wife to be seamless.
We try things and we support each other. I'm the only
girl on the faculty basketball team" and he's all over that.
They introduced their kids to each other before they
were married. The kids were 9, 10, 11 and 12 and for
the kids it wasn't a big deal. They dated more than three
years and were engaged for more than two. Today they
"argue more, forgive more, make jokes about what happened," says Stephanie.
Simon likes that Stephanie "is like a buddy. It makes
the romance stronger." So do the dirty jokes and the
risque conversations. "It cements the romantic," Stephanie cracks.
"I'm not a knight on a white horse," says Simon.
"No," says Stephanie. "He's more real than that."
SAVION TRIGG (17)
& ANGEL MAYSONET (17)
When Angel Maysonet's family bailed out on Harlem
10 years ago, moving to a wildly different culture in
Roanoke, he had no idea what to expect. What he found
was Savion Trigg, who has been his best friend since they
met in second grade.
The boys are 17-year-old seniors at William Fleming
High today with similar ambitions for their futures, each
having influenced the other along the way.
Angel (he prefers AJ) moved here "for a better life," he
says. "It was getting kinda crazy in Harlem." AJ moved
to the far reaches of Virginia with his mother, step-father
(whom he calls one of his heroes) and sisters. Two brothers and his dad stayed behind.
The boys met on AJ's first day of elementary school
when Savion struck up a conversation about football and
offered to share one of the two football jerseys he owned.
From that point, they've been best friends, they agree.
Even their college prospects are close: Savion Radford
or Old Dominion; AJ Radford or VCU. AJ wants to
study business and advertising; Savion sports marketing.
Savion Trigg and Angel Maysonet:
"It was getting kinda crazy in Harlem."
Savion works as an intern with Mike Hamlar's
New Virginia Economy and AJ works part-time at JC
Their paths have crossed and re-crossed through the
years. They were separated in grade school, then reunited in middle school, only to attend different high
schools (AJ at Fleming, Savion to PH) before Savion
transferred to Fleming as a junior in order to play varsity soccer. Even with the official separation, however,
the friendship remained strong.
"We were always at each others' houses, doing stuff
together," says AJ. Savion and AJ occasionally double
date (dating close friends).
They "argue like brothers," says AJ, "forgetting about
it the next day" and they don't mind giving or receiving
criticism of each other. "I think we're as close as brothers," says Savion. "I know everything about him and he
knows all about me."
They are constantly bouncing ideas off each other "to
make sure we do the right thing," says AJ.
One of those "right things" was becoming friends in
the first place. I
For one more set of best friends forever,
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