Spirit Magazine - October 2013 - (Page 82)
And fortunately, you have a lot of control over how you appear.
“What three words do I want people
to think when they see me today?”
Style consultant Bridgette Raes says
to ask yourself this question every
time you get dressed. If the words are
confident, smart, powerful, you’ll dress
differently than if you’re trying for
artistic, fun, free spirit. And if your
clothes are in line with your message,
you’ll project authenticity, and more
than anything you say or do in the
spotlight, people will remember you.
F
or many, learning techniques and getting experience
and feedback are the ticket to
speaking in public more freely. For
others, who know their material cold
and have performed perfectly thousands of times but freeze up (or live in
fear of freezing up) when the stakes
are high, more practice may not be
what’s needed. Releasing ourselves
from a fear of failure may be the key.
Barbra Streisand stopped giving
live performances for 27 years after
blanking on song lyrics in concert.
Even Adele battles stage fright, telling Rolling Stone that she escaped
out the fire exit at one show and has
thrown up from nerves more than
once. How does she cope with all the
live performances she has to give?
“I just think that nothing’s ever gone
horrifically wrong,” she says in the
article. She also cracks jokes and draws
upon Sasha Carter, an alter ego she
created to pump herself up that is
Beyoncé’s Sasha Fierce and country
legend June Carter combined.
The stories of celebrities with stage
fright are legion, but even with lower
stakes, we all get that jolt of fear: This
is the day everyone discovers I’m an idiot.
“I think that your courage goes as
deep as the center of the earth,” said
Tony Smith, a professional coach
to many CEOs and public figures.
Tony was a church acquaintance
who would tell me during coffee
hour that each of us has the power
to transform the world, if we could
release both our fear of failure and
our fear of success. That was a welcome thought on the day of the Listen
to Your Mother show. A few weeks
after I auditioned, I got the news that
I’d been chosen to be one of 15 readers for the Manhattan event. I was
both thrilled and terrified at the
prospect of reading my own words
onstage. On the day of the show I
stood in front of my closet, paralyzed
by choice: heels or flats, lipstick or
gloss, Spanx or sucking in. Which
kept my mind off thinking of all that
could go wrong.
“Things going wrong” is its own
category when it comes to reasons
people dread public speaking.
Things go wrong all the time in life,
but when it’s in front of other people,
it feels exponentially worse. And
because there is no end to the number of ways things could go wrong—
up to and including tripping and
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Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of Spirit Magazine - October 2013
Spirit Magazine - October 2013
Contents
Gary’s Greeting
Star of the Month
Freedom Story
From the Editor
Your Words
Your Pictures
Media Center
Eat Drink Sleep
The Numbers
Business
Be Here Now
Don’t Just Stand There
Your Adventure In San Jua
Promotional Series: Florida: Full of Surprises
Your Adventure In San Juan
Promotional Series: Focus on Women’s Health
Promotional Series: Focus on Franchises
Calendar
Fun!
Spotlight
Community Outreach
Products & Services
Flight Service
Terminal Maps
Information
Rapid Rewards and A+ Rewards Partners
Route Map
The “If” List
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