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voice, the pace of their breathing and their postures, to name a few. It might feel unnatural at ﬁrst, but when done with the right intentions, you will get good at it. You do it already; did you ever sit and chat with a close friend and notice that you both were leaning into the chair the same way with the same leg crossed? This is because you are in true rapport with them; no work or conscious attention was needed. One caveat for mirroring and matching is that you have to be careful not to get caught up in the same patterns they are accessing. You need to have empathy and be engaged but also aware of your state, as you may need to “lead” them from one state to another, more desirable, state based on their goals. do you do? You simply ask them, “Why are you telling me this?” This is called a “pattern interruption,” a basic but powerful NLP technique where you interrupt the pattern of behavior that is causing the person a problem (it could also be done by dropping a pen or tying your shoe). The ﬁrst time you create this mild state of uncertainty, you will be surprised at how their state has changed, as if they are stuck looking for what will happen next. This gives you the opportunity to suggest another outcome. Setting Goals Guide the client to talk to you about what they actually want. NLP speciﬁes that the goal must be stated in the positive. I still hear people say all the time that they must think more positively, but they continue to describe their situations in life in one of the following two ways: what they are trying to avoid (“I don’t want to be fat anymore”) and what they currently have as a result (“This relationship I am in is horrible”). Saying that you want to be “ﬁt” is not enough. Much more detail is needed to write a new program. It can be tough at ﬁrst because it is like ﬂexing new muscles, so start to ask your clients: When will you know you have attained your goal? What will this outcome allow you to do? What will others say when they see you? What do you need to get your outcome? Have you done this before? Can you act as if you already achieved this goal? Be patient with them while they formulate the answers, as it can be uncomfortable, and stay in rapport with them. Calmly remind them that being uncomfortable with this is very normal and that they are on the right track. Pattern Interruption So you meet with the same client and their glamorous fabrications. Instead of listening to them put in all that energy and ﬁght so hard for their limitations, what Reframing Experience The clients I have seen get the best results spend time creating pictures of a new result. They write down this story and monitor what they are thinking about to make the pre- 20 AUGUST2008 · WWW.FIT-PRO.COM http://WWW.FIT-PRO.COM

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