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continued

quoted in The New Yorker article
above,

Frame adversity as a
challenge, and you
become more
flexible and able to
deal with it, move
on, learn from it, and
grow. Focus on it,
frame it as a threat,
and a potentially
traumatic event
becomes an
enduring problem;
you become more
inflexible, and more
likely to be
negatively affected.
(Bonanno, 2016 in The
New Yorker)

Bonanno calls them PTEs,
potentially traumatic events,
because they are only traumatic if
that is the story that we tell
ourselves. This is not about being
minimizing or denying reality. It's
about not focusing so much on the
seemingly negative of a situation
that we create more stress than is
necessary for ourselves and miss
seeing our options and the
potentially positive.
Yes, things may be challenging
right now, and...we are smart and
creative, we have people around
us who care about us even on our
worst days and will not let us fall,
we can ask for what we need and
for support, we can set
boundaries, we can look for
guidance to whatever belief
system helps us make sense of
and navigate the world, etc.
We can traumatize ourselves, and
each other, by the stories we tell,
or we can build greater resilience
by facing challenges with the
resources we have available and
grow through those times.

Internalized vs. Externalized
Locus of Control
Do we give away our power and
invite learned helplessness in
ourselves by externalizing locus of
control and putting the
responsibility for circumstances
on everyone else? Or do we, as I
described earlier, maintain our
internalized locus of control, and
create learned optimism within
ourselves, by focusing on the
things we can actually change?

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Newsline / Fall 2019

As we communicate with our
words and actions in our
workplaces, it is helpful to ask
ourselves which of these we are
inviting. Learned helplessness
may sound something like,
"No matter how hard you work,
there will be no choice, no
control, no reward, no
protection, no support, no
consistency. Concerns will be
dismissed as whining.
Boundaries and self-care will be
punished. Colleagues will
disappear with no warning or
explanation. Scarcity and fear
will be our culture. You will
always be left guessing and
wonder if you're next..."
Learned optimism can sound
more like this,
"Things will change, and we
won't be able to stop it, but
we will work together to
determine how we will respond
and give you as much buy-in,
control, and support as
possible. Communication will
be open. All voices will be
welcome. We will never allow
anyone to throw you under the
bus. We have your backs.
Whatever happens, we'll move
through it together..."

Connection with Ourselves,
Something Beyond Ourselves,
and with Community
Building connections with others
in the workplace so that we feel
supported can help us navigate



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Interdisciplinary Conference (display ad)
Table of Contents
Message from Edo
FY2020 Hospice Wage Index Rule
Quality Reporting Updates
Q&A New Requirements: Addendum
Co-creating Resilience
Marketplace (display ad)
2019 IDC - Developing the Skills
NHPCO Edge Can Help
There's More to Death
Hospice Compliance-Quality Connection
My Hospice Ambassadors
We Honor Veterans Update
National Hospice Month Outreach
Resources for Pediatric Care
Programs Honored for Innovation
Become More Involved with NHPCO
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In Memoria: Kathy Brandt
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Death by Design (display ad)
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