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By not taking anything personally, you also give yourself more opportunities to enjoy your agility experience. Instead of driving home from a trial, thinking about how horribly you have been treated by someone or how upset you are about some random comment someone made about your fault on a course, you can enjoy the scenery or plan your training for the week based on that course fault! Another important thing to remember is that if you are not affected by what people say to you and about you, then they will soon realize that you are not an easy target and may stop talking about you all together. Remember the saying “No one can make a fool out of you without your consent.”
Intentions can be even more ambiguous because so much of our agility experience is now online. With a core group of friends and instructors that live in other states, much of our communication is done electronically. This can be very dangerous. It is impossible to judge tone in a typed letter and most people admit to assuming a person’s tone in an email. If someone makes a comment or sends an email that you find upsetting, try to remember that it may have been intended in a way much different than your interpretation of it. Communication is the key in dealing with assumptions. Try asking the person about the remark in a non-defensive way or just walk away, hit the delete button, and forget about it. Try to avoid making a huge issue out of it by drawing others into the drama. You will find it much easier to put it past you!
The Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best
The fourth agreement ties all the others into one. It may be hard to make these changes all at once, but if you always do your best, you can be proud of your attempts and not continue to live your agility experience with negative habits. If you always do your best, the other agreements will become more like habits and less like work. You will become someone who is supportive and noncritical and not someone who comes across as mean-spirited or judgmental. When you do your best, whether it is by actively training your dog at home or not trying too hard on a course, you can feel good about your attempts and not regret any part of your agility experience. You will feel good about what went well and not focus on the almighty Q. I am working now on making my trial experience one that I am more in control of, and my best is much better now. I am spending a lot of time with my dogs, walking them around the site, and bringing them to visit friends and play with friends’ dogs. I am trying to be more positive in my remarks to others and walk away when the discussion turns in a direction I don’t find positive or kind. I try to practice more and make an effort to always do my best when it comes to making sure my dogs are prepared enough for the courses ahead. I try to find good things to say to myself when I come out of the ring after a run, whether the run is good or bad. I am still really trying to always do my best!
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions
The act of making assumptions can be a very difficult habit to break. We make assumptions all the time and then we accept them as reality. We assume that people at ringside talking about us. We assume what they are saying and how they are saying it. We perceive that someone’s remark should be interpreted a certain way, we take it personally and get upset, and quite often we amplify the problem by complaining to others about it. I remember a situation at a trial where a friend walked by with a blue ribbon. When I stopped her and asked her which class the ribbon was for, I remarked that it was great she had won that class. I told her I thought it was quite an accomplishment because the course had been really difficult and very few dogs were able to get through it without faults. About an hour later, another friend came to me to tell me how upset our friend was with me. While the intention of my compliment was genuine and sincere, her perception of my remark was that I thought the only reason she had won the class was that very few dogs were able to get through it. It was quite the opposite; I was very impressed that she had done so well.
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Making the Change
Changing lifelong habits is not easy but it is certainly possible. Simply try to remind yourself when you are interacting with others online, in class, and at trials. Ask yourself the important questions. Am I... u u u u Being impeccable with my word? Taking things personally? Making assumptions? Doing my best?
It really can change your life! D
Nicole Levesque is a LMT and full-time agility instructor. She teaches at the Denver Dog Sports facility in Colorado. Her classes host an eclectic range of dogs from Pomeranians and Chows to Great Danes. Nicole has been a student of agility since 1995 and currently lives with three Border Collies: Shen, Bliss, and Venture. Nicole can be reached at www.thespiriteddog.com or email@example.com.
Clean Run - November 2012
Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of Clean Run - November 2012
Clean Run - November 2012
Editorializing: Sportsmanship Is Not Just About Being Nice
Tip of the Month
Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Agility...
The Four Agreements
Power Paws Drills: Working Opposites
Training with the Stars: Jeannette Hutchison
What’s in Your Toolbox?
Being a Good Student, Part 1
Tips for Weave Pole Entries
Not a Practice Dog Anymore
The 2-Minute Warm-up
The Worrier: Solutions for the Dog That Is Worried or Afraid
What Is a Ketschker Turn?
Agility Mind Gym: Persistence and Determination
Building Blocks: Building a Better Lead-out
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Clean Run - November 2012 - Contents
Clean Run - November 2012 - 4
Clean Run - November 2012 - Editorializing: Sportsmanship Is Not Just About Being Nice
Clean Run - November 2012 - Tip of the Month
Clean Run - November 2012 - Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Agility...
Clean Run - November 2012 - Backyard Dogs
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Clean Run - November 2012 - The Four Agreements
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Clean Run - November 2012 - Power Paws Drills: Working Opposites
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Clean Run - November 2012 - Training with the Stars: Jeannette Hutchison
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Clean Run - November 2012 - What’s in Your Toolbox?
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Clean Run - November 2012 - Being a Good Student, Part 1
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Clean Run - November 2012 - Analyze This!
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Clean Run - November 2012 - Tips for Weave Pole Entries
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Clean Run - November 2012 - Not a Practice Dog Anymore
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Clean Run - November 2012 - The 2-Minute Warm-up
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Clean Run - November 2012 - The Worrier: Solutions for the Dog That Is Worried or Afraid
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Clean Run - November 2012 - What Is a Ketschker Turn?
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Clean Run - November 2012 - Agility Mind Gym: Persistence and Determination
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Clean Run - November 2012 - Building Blocks: Building a Better Lead-out
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