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when she’s tired, her tongue protrudes a bit; her mouth is almost always open. She has just mastered walking in the past few months. Her speech skills are delayed. She has, however, mastered several words through American Sign Language—which increases her vocabulary with necessary terms like “eat” and “more.” Right now, Lilly is unaware of hurtful reactions to her presence. She smiles and loves… but soon that may change. As Lilly becomes more aware of the actions of others, she will also become aware that there are people who are not tolerant of persons with disabilities. Meredith Pool is an occupational therapist employed by the Richie McFarland Children’s Center  in Stratham, New Hampshire. The center provides many services for families with children of ages newborn to 3 having varying disabilities. Lilly receives these services and has worked with Pool since she was 3 months old. As a frequent observer of children with disabilities, Pool offers sage advice for dealing with the intolerance of others. She attributes such behavior to a lack of education rather than blatant prejudice. “I prefer to think of it as fear,” she explains. “Adults have a great fear of the unknown. And face it, if you don’t have a family member with Down syndrome  or work in a field related to such disabilities, you probably don’t know a great deal about it.” She continues by adding her own suggestions for grandparents who are confronted with a scenario like the one in the restaurant. (It took a healthy dose of patience for this nana to bite her tongue.) “If a child [without disabilities] asks a question or appears curious, it sometimes is the perfect opening for educating the accompanying adult,” Pool says. “Speak in simple terms to the child. Tell her that Lilly may look a little different, but she still loves to play, be around her family and friends and do a lot of the same things other children do. Continue by sharing that Lilly will be a little bit slower to talk and to learn a few of the things that [the observing child] has probably already accomplished.” It is Pool’s hope that in addressing the child this way, the adult will develop understanding as well. If encountering a child or adult who appears curious but only stares or sneaks glances, she offers even more tips. “Approach the person in a friendly manner and say something like ‘Lilly really seems to like you. I think she’d like to say hello.’ This will hopefully open the door to a short conversation that may result in alleviating that fear of the unknown and showing all parties involved that you are open and willing to share a little bit about Lilly.” Lilly waves enthusiastically—often with both hands. First persoN Not Who We expected Maxford, 5, is our DS grandson. By Joan Cronk GO Click and connect to more resources instantly where you see this symbol:  MAY 2009 GRAND 21
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Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of GRAND Magazine - May 2009

GRAND Magazine - May 2009
GRAND View
Contents
GRAND Central
Watching Lily Bloom
GrandZ in the 'Hood'
Numbers Game
We're Taking In the G'Kids
Face-to-Facebook
SHMILY
Family Crews
Soul Food
Resources
GRAND Finale
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Intro
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Contents
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - GRAND Central
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Watching Lily Bloom
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - GrandZ in the 'Hood'
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 25
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Numbers Game
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 29
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - We're Taking In the G'Kids
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 33
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Face-to-Facebook
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 35
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - SHMILY
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 37
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Family Crews
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 39
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Soul Food
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 42
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Resources
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - GRAND Finale
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