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cover story Down syndrome, and that sometimes when people don’t know about something they become a little bit afraid.” And as for those scripted answers, Pool offers a couple of basic options that work for many types of disabilities. For example, “Lilly really likes you. She has Down syndrome and doesn’t speak quite as clearly as some people do, so she may be a little hard to understand. But she understands you and loves it when people include her in the conversation.” Another example might be, “Lilly noticed your sweater. She has Down syndrome and doesn’t always express herself the way we might, but she gets really excited when she sees something pretty like your sweater.” Sadly, there aren’t any scripted scenes to use when encountering a situation like ours in the restaurant. Politely turning away and distracting Lilly was the best thing we could have done, without appearing rude. Pool bolstered our confidence by assuring us we’d reacted appropriately, but it still makes me hurt for Lilly—for both what we encountered and what she might encounter in the future. There are no perfect answers, and we don’t live in a perfect world, but despite our differences, we all share the same basic human need: to love and to be loved in return. And Lilly’s capacity for love is limitless! G There are no scripts for how to respond when people are unkind. Pool also suggests preparing ahead of time, at home. This involves both explaining others’ hurtful behavior to Lilly when she is old enough to comprehend the careless looks or words, as well as having some standard— almost scripted—answers for family members  who are questioned about Lilly. This can be a bit tricky. “Be very careful never to berate the person who has asked a question or behaved offensively,” Pool advises. “Despite their poor behavior, meanness only breeds meanness, and that serves no purpose whatsoever. Explain to Lilly that not everyone knows people with An E xclusive Opportunity in Dunedin, Florida You can own a condo within Florida’s Beso Del Sol Resort! Located on the Gulf coast, this waterfront resort was recently converted into furnished condos. Community amenities include heated pools and a private boat dock. Future plans include a restaurant and water taxi service that can take you to the popular Honeymoon and Caladesi islands, the latter of which is the #1 beach in America. And it is close to downtown Dunedin, where specialty shops and restaurants are plentiful. Limited waterfront units available – call now! Florida Coastal www.BesoDelSolResort.com Real Estate Sales (800) 999-1020 Ext. 292 ● Reservations (800) 331-2548 22 GRAND MAY 2009
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Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of GRAND Magazine - May 2009

GRAND Magazine - May 2009
GRAND View
Contents
GRAND Central
Watching Lily Bloom
GrandZ in the 'Hood'
Numbers Game
We're Taking In the G'Kids
Face-to-Facebook
SHMILY
Family Crews
Soul Food
Resources
GRAND Finale
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Intro
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Cover2
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - GRAND View
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Contents
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - GRAND Central
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Watching Lily Bloom
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 22
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - GrandZ in the 'Hood'
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 24
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 25
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Numbers Game
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 27
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 28
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 29
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - We're Taking In the G'Kids
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 31
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 32
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 33
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Face-to-Facebook
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 35
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - SHMILY
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 37
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Family Crews
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 39
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Soul Food
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 41
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 42
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - Resources
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GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - 45
GRAND Magazine - May 2009 - GRAND Finale
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