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ask grand Am I too old to raise my grandchildren? The family politics of legal guardianship By LiLLian Carson Q A My son and his wife have just informed my husband and me that they have designated my daughter-in-law’s sister and her husband as guardians for my grandchildren should, heaven forbid, my son and his wife die or become incapacitated. our grandchildren are 4, 7 and 8; i am 57, and my husband is 59. i won’t even be 70 when they’re teenagers. on the one hand, everyone is saying, “oh, 60 is the new 40,” and on the other, a crowded young family is chosen to be the guardians. (The in-law couple has four children of their own, and i’m sure they will always love their children first, unlike us—we will always love our grandchildren first.) i’m angry and hurt, but, of course, i can’t say anything because the whole premise of the argument is based on horrific circumstances. are we too old? We’re 20 years younger than michael Jackson’s mother, who, by the way, didn’t even have any toys in her house. —Young Enough To Do It again You can saY someThing abouT This To your son and daughter-in-law—you should talk this over as a practical matter. Planning for a potential catastrophe is prudent; it is not the same as wishing for it to happen. And your children deserve to know how much you’d love to raise your grandchildren should the need arise. Certainly, age may be a factor in your son and daughter-in-law’s decision. To some young people, 57 and 59 may seem too old to keep up with young children. (Yes, Michael Jackson’s 79-year-old 34 GRAND SEPTEMBER 2009

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GRAND Magazine - September 2009
Contents
GRAND Central
2009 GRANDparent of the Year Award
Water Babies
“Mom, Meet My Doula”
Legacy
Ask GRAND
Cruel Sleep
Resources
GRAND Finale
GRAND Magazine - September 2009 - intro
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GRAND Magazine - September 2009 - 2009 GRANDparent of the Year Award
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GRAND Magazine - September 2009 - Water Babies
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GRAND Magazine - September 2009 - “Mom, Meet My Doula”
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GRAND Magazine - September 2009 - Legacy
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GRAND Magazine - September 2009 - Ask GRAND
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GRAND Magazine - September 2009 - Cruel Sleep
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GRAND Magazine - September 2009 - Resources
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