Guide for new grandparents Think first, then do the right thing By Clarissa Thomasson S o you’re going to be a new grandparent! Whether you’ll be a grandparent, a step-grandparent or adopted grandparent makes little difference—children understand love, not labels. Whatever your title, you’re about to become an important part of a young person’s life. Preparing to be a grandparent is best done in advance, so here are some ways you can get ready. Spreading the word After you’ve heard the news, you immediately pick up the phone. Who will you tell first?! But wait a minute: This is the prospective parents’ news, not yours. • Be considerate. Give the parents a chance to tell family and friendsGRAND OCTOBER © Carla F. Castagno | Dreamstime.Com Receiving the news While learning of a pregnancy should be exciting for prospective parents and grandparents alike, the news isn’t always welcomed; for instance, when it involves teenage or unmarried daughters or young couples with limited income. • Resist reacting in a way you might later regret. • Be happy for them. • Don’t ask: “Can you afford a child? Do you have room? What about your job?” • Do ask: “How are you feeling?” and “When is the baby due?”