GRAND Magazine - July/August 2011 - (Page 36)

grandparent rights Brainwashing Hannah BY SUSAN HOFFMAN Emotional abuse leaves scars that may never heal Dear Susan, My daughter and son-in-law are separated, and I am now living with my daughter and granddaughter. I am pleased to say that I have become my granddaughter’s caregiver when my daughter is working. Everyone gets along well, and I take great joy in helping to raise Hannah. Susan Hoffman is the author of Grand Wishes: Advocating to Preserve the GrandparentGrandchild Bond and director of Advocates for Grandparent Grandchild Connection. Hannah’s dad, however, is causing turmoil from afar. He has decided that he wants full custody and is on a mission to sabotage Hannah’s relationship with her mom and me. My daughter allows him to bully her, and she is too intimidated to hire an attorney. As long as she does nothing legally, then Tom can get away with brainwashing Hannah and keeping our lives turned upside down. Whenever Hannah returns from weekend visits with her dad, she becomes suspicious and distant toward me. Besides the constant bad-mouthing, her dad also said that I hated him so much that I once tried to shoot him. I not only don’t own a gun but have never touched one. He is trying to instill fear in her about me, so that she will want to live with him. It takes me about three days to do damage control, and then we have two days of life back to normal before it’s time to do it all over again. I can see the effects of the pressure: acting out at school and fearful 36 GRAND JULY AUG 2011 Share this article with your friends. photo: © borbathistvan

Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of GRAND Magazine - July/August 2011

GRAND - July/Aug 2011
Grand Treasure Hunt
Table of Contents
Grand View
Grand Central
American Pride (and Peace of Mind)
The Golden Now
Cover Story: The Baby Boomers’ Guide to Grandparenting
2011 Awards for Best Grandparenting Books
Bite Your Tongue?
Grand Products
Extraordinary Grands: Claudia Timbo
Grand Families: Going Through the Fire
Birds Do It
Grandparent Rights: Brainwashing Hannah
Teaching Kindness by Example
Getting Creative with Childhood Obesity
Toys ’n Tech
“Whadya Say??”
Grand Finale
The Big Reveal
Op Ed: Same-Sex Marriage, Pro or No?
Kinship Care Resources
Find Fun Things to Do

GRAND Magazine - July/August 2011