GRAND Magazine - July/August 2011 - (Page 50)

The big reveal How to come out to your grandkids BY LOREN A. OLSON A Share this article with your friends. fter same-sex marriage became legal in Iowa, my partner of 24 years and I decided to marry. Just prior to the wedding, my daughter had had “the sex talk” with my granddaughters. They were asking questions as they drove to the wedding. “Do you really have to do that every time you have a baby?” My daughter responded, “Yes, you do.” Silence. Then, “Will Grandpa and Doug be doing that?” Thinking quickly, my daughter responded, “No, they don’t want to have children.” The three most important questions to answer before 50 GRAND JULY AUG 2011 coming out to grandchildren are • Do you have the parents’ permission? • What is the appropriate information for their ages? • What information do the grandchildren want? Raising your children does not give you the right to raise your grandchildren too. Parents’ highest responsibility is to protect their children, and they may wish to keep the entire topic secret. Kids may not look favorably on their parents or grandparents coming out. Negative attitudes about homosexuality are changed most significantly when the negative person has

Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of GRAND Magazine - July/August 2011

GRAND - July/Aug 2011
Grand Treasure Hunt
Table of Contents
Grand View
Grand Central
American Pride (and Peace of Mind)
The Golden Now
Cover Story: The Baby Boomers’ Guide to Grandparenting
2011 Awards for Best Grandparenting Books
Bite Your Tongue?
Grand Products
Extraordinary Grands: Claudia Timbo
Grand Families: Going Through the Fire
Birds Do It
Grandparent Rights: Brainwashing Hannah
Teaching Kindness by Example
Getting Creative with Childhood Obesity
Toys ’n Tech
“Whadya Say??”
Grand Finale
The Big Reveal
Op Ed: Same-Sex Marriage, Pro or No?
Kinship Care Resources
Find Fun Things to Do

GRAND Magazine - July/August 2011