GRAND Magazine - November/December 2011 - (Page 42)

raising grandchildren Saving Pirate Ryan by lily PRellezo My grandson is into pirates. Between the daily swashbuckling, the crooked bandanas and the black eye patch, I try to sneak in lessons about bad pirates and good pirates. It’s difficult sometimes because pirate aspirations are to pillage and plunder. Is it any wonder the response of my piratewith-a-pacifier is a steady “Aarrrgh!”? They say that good habits and good lessons are better caught than taught. I’m used to other phrases, like “Do as I say, not as I do” and the old-school “Because I said so.” Grandparents are supposed to have earned a respite from these axioms, but when you’re in the position of raising your grandchildren, you don’t get to take a break. Timeouts? I dream of time alone in a corner by myself! Shouldn’t whining and crying be an out for grandparents to give in? Why do we find ourselves being the delayers of gratification most of the time? Even though it didn’t work out as you planned with your own children, you still want the same for your grandkids: to love them, to teach them and to save them from bad things. 42 GRAND Nov Dec 2011 Lily’s grandson Ryan For now, I feel capable of saving my pirate Ryan from most of the bad things that could happen to a 3-yearold. I know one day he’ll grow out of pirates and move on to action figures and superheroes. Then he can go and save the world. In the meantime, my two buccaneers and I will cross swords and learn about good and bad. And I’ll teach them the best lesson of all: unconditional love. Lily Prellezo, a regular contributor to, is raising her two grandsons. Are you raising your grandkids? We invite you to email GRAND your experiences in 275 words or less. We’ll publish the best submissions in GRAND. Share this article with your friends.

Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of GRAND Magazine - November/December 2011

GRAND - Nov./Dec. 2011
Grand View
Tips on Talking With Grandkids
Grand Treasure Hunt
Table of Contents
Grand Central
No More Questions
How Hip Are You?
’Tis the Season to Be Techie!
Cover Story: Golden Grandparents’ Rule #1
The Secret Guest
Spirituality for Grandkids
Stocking Stuffers and Beyond...
Have a Noble Holiday
Grandparents Survival Guide
Saving Pirate Ryan
Kinship Care Resources
Grandpa’s Dream

GRAND Magazine - November/December 2011