legacy The joy of seeing family adopt and adapt your values as their own BY JERRY WITKOVSKY 2018 was a grand year! There were graduations and weddings and birthdays and promotions. So much to celebrate. And it was a scary year. There were concerns about aging and losing my independence. Thankfully, I passed my written driving test and renewed my driver's license. But that was after flunking it the first time. Over the winter break, I had a heart attack and had to have stents put in. And, I felt more deeply than I ever felt before the glow of seeing values that my wife and I consciously taught our children in action, as my children separately took time away from their day-to-day lives to care for me during my recovery. " When I talk to grandparents they often ask, "What will be my legacy?" "How can I leave values, not just valuables, to my family?" The process of teaching values to our children starts the day they are born. It happens from what we say and even more so as they observe our actions. We hope, but there's no guarantee as to which values will stick. 28 GRAND MARCH APRIL 2019 Continued on next pagehttps://www.facebook.com/GRANDmagazine/ https://www.twitter.com/grandMmagazine