The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - R6

COMMUNITY SPOTLIGHT

Brandon Oaks
A RESIDENT TALKS ABOUT LIVING IN THE ROANOKE
RETIREMENT COMMUNITY BRANDON OAKS - ITS JOYS,
ITS REALITIES, ITS DISTINCT LACK OF "ORGAN RECITALS."

BY JOAN
BARTHELME
BUGBEE

What's it really like to live in a retirement community? The ads make it look like heaven on earth; handsome older men and women, beaming as they vault
over the tennis net, every silver hair in place. "Come
live here," the ads imply, "and you will be just like this,
athletic, vibrant, full of life, having a wonderful time,
easily passing for 5o."

Certainly you won't be old. Heaven forbid.
When my husband and I started thinking about
moving to Brandon Oaks, I worried about a million
things - finding a home for our old, sick dog, needing space for a grand piano, what to do about the
sideboard and the dining room table, all the people
I'd have to notify, and on and on.
What I didn't think about turned out to be the
most important thing of all - people. Not just the
staff I'd met but the bright man next door, the helpful
couple down the hall. The biggest thing about being
here turned out to be not things but people, a whole
new family.
And like a family, things aren't going to be rosy all
the time. But the neat thing about a retirement community is this - you're independent, you retain your
individuality, and you can partake of the "family" as
much or as little as you choose.
There are people here I've never met, though they've
lived here much longer than I. There are people here
from other parts of the community, the new section
called The Pines, the older section of large homes,
whose schedules are so different from mine that I seldom see them. There are others I see daily, and enjoy.
And what a fantastic bunch of people they are.
Teachers - lots of teachers.

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Military men, from generals to a D-Day veteran
who recently won the French Legion of Honor.
Doctors, lawyers. No merchant chiefs but plenty of
business people. Lots of homemakers with fascinating stories to tell. Librarians. Engineers. People who
lived all over the country and some who never set
foot outside Roanoke. Different religions and races,
different ethnic backgrounds, different viewpoints.
Weirdly, we all get along.
Of course, there are a few residents who stay holed
up in their living quarters, and that's their right, but
most don't. For most residents, life here doesn't shut
down, it opens up. It offers a reason to get up in the
morning. Possibilities. So most stay busy with all the
activities here, and quite a few are also active in the
big world outside. Being a poll watcher. Manning the
information desk at Center in the Square. Running
a business. Volunteering for area charities or putting
in long hours for their church. Helping at the Rescue
Mission. Teaching math to local school kids.
Nobody here is going to run for president or cure
cancer. All of us have problems, just like those outside of the community. We're not famous and certainly not all rich. What we are is a cross-section of
society who've found a safe and useful life. It's not
perfect, but nothing is.
Are there drawbacks to retirement living? Certainly. Because of the building we chose to live in,
there's no covered parking for my five-year-old Prius,
and I miss that. My sons used to accuse me of parking my car in the living room. On the other hand,
we could have chosen other accommodations that
do offer covered parking.


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The Roanoker - September/October 2014

Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of The Roanoker - September/October 2014

Digital Help Guide
From the Publisher
The Look
The 360
The Gossip
The Flavor
The Gist
The Calendar
Roanoke in the Year 2054
Appreciations and Deprecations: Perspectives on Roanoke Over the Years
What Really Happened with Design ‘79?
The Poff Building Debacle
Roanoke Then & Now
40 Stars of 40 Years
Covers Great, Covers Not-So-Great
Green Building
Restaurants of Old … and Still Here!
Dining: Fiji Island and the New Yorker Deli
The Dish
The Perfect Weekend
Retire-VA
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - Intro
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - Cover1
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The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - Digital Help Guide
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 9
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - From the Publisher
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 11
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - The Look
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 13
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - The 360
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 15
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - The Gossip
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 17
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - The Flavor
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 19
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - The Gist
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 21
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 22
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - The Calendar
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The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - Roanoke in the Year 2054
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The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 39
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - Appreciations and Deprecations: Perspectives on Roanoke Over the Years
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 41
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 42
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The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - What Really Happened with Design ‘79?
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 49
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 50
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 51
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - The Poff Building Debacle
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 53
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 54
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 55
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - Roanoke Then & Now
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 57
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 40 Stars of 40 Years
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 59
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 60
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The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 80
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 81
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 82
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - Covers Great, Covers Not-So-Great
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 84
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The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - Green Building
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The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - Retire-VA
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The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - Restaurants of Old … and Still Here!
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 100
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The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 103
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - Dining: Fiji Island and the New Yorker Deli
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The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 109
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - The Dish
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 111
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 112
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - 113
The Roanoker - September/October 2014 - The Perfect Weekend
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