LIFE STAGES | DEATH paper columnist who wrote about his wife's suicide and a few years later died a public death after a stroke. Most deaths and most grief are not like that. The vast majority of us face the death of members of our family or THEROANOKER.COM our friends quietly and with the dignity of privacy. Death is a personal part of life, perhaps the most personal. It is the final phase and one for which Elisabeth Kubler-Ross developed a "stage theory" of the adjustment to death in the 1960s, one that remains generally acceptMAY/JUNE 2016 | 71http://www.THEROANOKER.COM