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As Muñoz says, "You could say something like, 'Here's what I am thinking we
could do this afternoon-do you think
this would be helpful for you?' "

BE THE CHANGE-FOR
YOUR KIDS, TOO

By turning the focus on her own health,
a woman can help encourage her spouse
and children to follow her lead.
"What I see in my practice across
the board is that as women begin making these healthy choices, almost by
osmosis their partners begin to see
changes themselves. Whether they're
consciously or unconsciously adopting
those behaviors, it happens," Eaker says.
He believes that because of the
intimate nature of their relationship,
spouses are in especially good positions
to inspire each other to make better
decisions. "The closer the relationship,
the greater the influence you can have.
There's almost a transference of energy
as one person begins to notice the other
is sleeping better or less winded going
up and down stairs," he says.
And if you and your spouse manage
to improve your health, your children
likely will benefit, too. Researchers have
found that when parents adopt a healthy
lifestyle, the effect ripples out. In a
2012 study from the Journal of Physical
Activity and Health, researchers asked
parents and children to increase their
daily activity levels by walking more
than normal. They found that "parental
change in physical activity is associated
with child change in physical activity."
And although both parents had positive influences on their children, mothers
had a greater effect than fathers: Kids got
about 500 more steps on days their mothers met their goals versus the days their
fathers did. "It really is a group approach
when it comes to the family," Eaker says,
but even one person dedicated to inspiring change can make a difference.

ENLIST BACKUP

And what if you're truly, desperately
worried? A spouse may be drinking
heavily or using other substances, for
example, and might need more than a
pep talk or easy-to-grab carrot sticks
in the fridge. In this case, Eaker suggests scheduling an appointment
with the partner's primary care
doctor, who can suggest treatment
and possibly refer to specialists.
(Depending on the situation, it may
or may not be appropriate for you to
attend as well.)
"There is no question that serious
medical issues like addiction have to
be addressed before any meaningful
work can be done on areas of healthy
habits for the family," he says. ■

CALL

Coupling
Convenience
with Care
From effective communication and intimacy to preventive health screenings,
everyday health concerns
can feel surprisingly overwhelming. To help with
these topics and more,
schedule a free consultation with a Northside
wellness navigator by
calling 470-325-6947.

COMMUNICATION
BREAKDOWN
Although communication isn't always easy, it's always necessary. "For many
couples, effective communication can feel daunting," says Sheila Warren, RN,
a Northside Hospital wellness navigator. "That's because it takes work, and
instead of putting in the work, many couples will just stop trying altogether."
For productive discussions with your partner, Warren recommends that you:
Notice your triggers. "We all have baggage," she says. "Whether it's a frustrating experience from earlier in the day or an upsetting memory from years
before, these experiences can impact the present moment and the way we
process things." As a result, something your spouse says or does may bring up
emotions from an unrelated event. "To stop this process, try using grounding
techniques to bring yourself back to the present moment," Warren says.
Practice reflective listening. Sometimes we're so focused on sharing our
own thoughts that we forget to listen to the other person. Instead, try using
Imago Relationship Therapy, a way of talking in which one person shares feelings
and the other listens quietly, then reflects back what is heard. Then switch.
Ditch the parent role. "When you're communicating with your spouse, treat
them like an equal, not a child," Warren says. "There are times when sharing your
opinion, advice or instruction can be helpful, but it can also feel patronizing or
belittling. When you're parenting your spouse, it can erode respect and infantilize
the other person, even decrease sexual connection."

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