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ality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) website. More ideas
on how to talk about sex can be found
on the web and in books too; check out
some of the resources below. And as
always, asking your healthcare team
for help is a great place to start.
WHAT'S UP, DOC?
What about that really embarrassing question you wanted to ask your
provider about? You know, that thing
that happened the last time you tried
to [insert sexual act here]? First of all,
it's probably really not as embarrassing as you think it is. And secondly,
you are not alone! Sexual questions
and concerns are super common for
cancer survivors of all ages.
Healthcare professionals can give
you reassurance as to what's normal
and help you understand what to expect during and after treatment. They
can also give you ideas for common
problems, help trouble-shoot more
specific symptoms or issues, and
provide resources and referrals to
other experts in sexual and reproductive health.
Ideally, your doctor or nurse will
be taking responsibility for checking in with you regularly about your
sexual health at your appointments.
In reality, though, the difficult task
of bringing it up might be left to you!

Here are some ideas on how to get the
ball rolling:
* Come prepared. Bring a list
of questions that you can read
from at your appointment, if
necessary.
* It's ok to request to talk with just
your provider present, or to ask
for a more private space to have a
conversation if needed.
* Bring sex up just as you would
any other concern that you have:
"I'm having trouble with fatigue,
nausea, and sexual [touch/sensation/arousal/desire/etc] has
changed for me."
* Be as specific as you can when
explaining an issue or asking a
question. This helps your doctor or nurse understand exactly
what your needs are or what kind
of information you are looking
for (practice those words out
loud! vulva! ear! penis! elbow!).
* It might be easier to ask questions with your partner present.... or without!

* Sometimes doctors or nurses
use vague language, confusing
euphemisms or super-scientific
medical jargon to talk about sex.
If something they are saying is
unclear, ask them to clarify or
explain it in a different way.
* Not sure who on your care team
to approach? Scope out the
person that you feel most comfortable with first. If they don't
know the answer, they can help
you figure out who will.
* If you are LGBTQ+, you might
be wondering if it matters
whether or not your healthcare
team knows your gender identity or sexual orientation. Sharing
as much as you are comfortable
with can be helpful so that everything they discuss and plan
with you is relevant to your life
and your needs. However, you
are never obligated to disclose
this information, and either way,
it should not change the care you
receive. l

BIBLIOGRAPHY AND RESOURCES:

* American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). https://www.aasect.org/
* American Cancer Society. (2020). Fertility and Sexual Side Effects in People with Cancer. https://www.cancer.org/treatment/treatments-and-side-effects/physical-side-effects/fertility-andsexual-side-effects.html
* Green, Laci. (2018). Sex Plus. HarperCollins Publishers.
* Katz, Anne. (2014). This Should Not Be Happening: Young Adults with Cancer. Hygeia Media.
* Macmillan Cancer Support. (2017). Sex and Relationships: Support for Young People Affected by Cancer. https://be.macmillan.org.uk/be/s-616-relationships.aspx
* Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center. (2020, March 2). Sexual Health and Intimacy. https://www.mskcc.org/cancer-care/patient-education/sexual-health-and-intimacy
* National Cancer Institute. (2018). Facing Forward: Life After Cancer Treatment. https://www.cancer.gov/publications/patient-education/life-after-treatment.pdf

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