120 LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH CANCER - PRACTICAL /// CHAPTER 76 School Study Hard to imagine that you could ever miss going to school? School makes up a big chunk of your life, and it can be overwhelming thinking about what will happen to your academic work while you are undergoing treatment. Many young people who have been through cancer treatment feel it's important to go back to school or college as soon as possible. But if you have been away for a long time it's normal to feel nervous as well as excited about going back to school. You may feel self-conscious about the changes in your life and unsure how others will deal with them. You may wonder how to explain where you've been. You may also be worried about catching up on the work, or maybe even having to repeat and be a year behind your friends. Before you return: » You could get your parents, friends, boyfriend or girlfriend to visit or call the school. » Your teachers might be able to tell everyone at the same time about what's going on so everyone knows and won't be so shocked on your first day back. » Ask to see if there is someone from the hospital who can visit your school to teach the teachers and students about your cancer. » Think about what is important to share with students you aren't close too. Not everyone needs to know all that you have been going through, it is okay not to share. It will help for you to have a prepared answer, share that answer with your friends so they can help you with sharing what matters to you. Friends Be prepared - people at school might act a bit weird around you at first. People often avoid things they don't understand or are uncomfortable with. People get nervous and sometimes say stupid things. You can stop them whispering about you behind your back by telling them upfront about what's going on and letting them know that it's okay to ask questions. On the first day, it might help to have a friend meet you at school to walk in with you so that you are not the center of attention or feel like you have to walk in alone. Be prepared for comments and don't be shocked if you hear something dumb being said. People usually tease because they are confused and don't know how to react. Avoid the temptation to tease back. Try to remember that it isn't your fault that someone is teasing you - they are responsible for what they do. Dealing with looking different If you're worried about how your friends will react the first time they see you after your treatment, catch up with them before you go back to class. Invite them over or go to the movies so they can get used to the way you look at the moment. It can help to have a few friendly faces when you go back to school or college (and at least a few less people who might stare!!!).https://fwaya.org/