Spirit Magazine - April 2013 - (Page 72)
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it was an avalanche of things: the cellphone
that never stopped beeping, the friends I saw only
on Facebook, the daily pentathlon from our son’s
school to keyboard lesson to play rehearsal to fastfood place to bed. Whatever happened to undivided attention? Staying and chatting? Or, better
yet, doing nothing? The numbed-out hare in me
really wanted to play tortoise awhile.
Scrambling around the house one afternoon,
I knew it was time. I was slammed with deadlines and running to get to an appointment when,
living slow, Family-style
You know the symptoms. Kids spending all
weekend glued to TVs and video games.
Grown-ups so stressed they can’t breathe. Friends
feeling disconnected and isolated. The remedies
may be easier than you think, says Bernadette
Noll, author of the new book, Slow Family Living:
75 Simple Ways to Slow Down, Connect, and Create
More Joy. If Noll can do it, anyone can. She and
her husband, Kenny, live in Austin, Texas, with—
count them—four kids, ages 15, 13, 10, and 6.
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in short order, I tripped over my computer cord,
snapped at my wife, Ruth, for losing the car keys
(they were in my pocket, naturally), and argued
with our plumber for charging $75 for a repair
I could have done for $5—if only I’d had the time.
It wasn’t until our 8-year-old, Sebastian, appeared
at my side with a shoebox rattling with birthday
money (“I can pay, Daddy,” he said gravely) that
I realized I was being a stressed-out jerk. I apologized, paid in full, and vowed on the spot to ease
up on my go-go-go-go-go approach to life.
Somewhere beyond the bottomless to-do list
in my head was a soft-focus visual of the sort of
experience I was craving. Rosy-cheeked from
an exhilarating stroll, I sat down at a long table
with friends and loved ones, clinking glasses as
course after farm-fresh course arrived to jubilant
“aaahs.” And this was just lunch. Unfortunately,
the message today is to speed up or get steamrollered. Taking the afternoon off to play Scrabble
with the family? Try explaining that to the boss.
I couldn’t afford to ditch the rat race, but what
about making more time to enjoy the cheese?
Ruth and I discussed adding meditation to our
morning routine, and maybe tai chi, and perhaps
walking places instead of driving. I tensed up
just thinking about all that planning. Instead,
we decided to put the brakes on everything for a
while. For 30 days—a month I dubbed “Slowvember”—we would focus on doing things well rather
than fast, on making human connections instead
of electronic ones, and on getting more out of life
DeciDing to Be Done
In home life, there’s never a time
when everything gets done. It’s up
to us to make that conscious decision. “One more load of laundry
won’t matter,” Noll says. “Emptying
the dishwasher can wait. It’s OK to
let things sit sometimes and say,
‘I’m finished for the moment.’” If you
can’t bear looking at all that needs
tending, turn your back to the
kitchen sink. Go for a walk. Enjoy
being. “The dishes will wait.”
Making eye contact
The simple act of a gentle touch or
making eye contact can have huge
positive impact on your connections within your family. “When
you go through the course of a
regular day, everyone’s so busy
you sometimes don’t even look at
each other,” says Noll. Just taking
that few extra seconds to stand
face to face or talk about homework, perhaps with a hand on your
little one’s shoulder, “creates a
moment that’s too important to
neglect.”
Table of Contents for the Digital Edition of Spirit Magazine - April 2013
Spirit Magazine - April 2013
Contents
Gary’s Greeting
Gary’s Greeting en Español
Star of the Month
Freedom Story
From the Editor
Your Words
Your Pictures
Media Center
Eat Drink Sleep
The Numbers
Wise Guide
Business
Almost Famous
Not So Fast
Your Adventure In...
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Calendar
Fun!
Spotlight
Community Outreach
Route Map
Terminal Maps
Rapid Rewards Partners
Flight Service
The “If” List
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