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ask grand Too-soon great By LiLLian Carson My teenage granddaughter is pregnant Q I never imagined I would become a great-grandmother while in my 50s. I have just learned that my 16-year-old granddaughter is pregnant. I am in shock. Such a lovely girl, good student, active in student government, planning to go to college—she had everything going for her, and now her life is ruined. Her mother, my daughter, is rather punitive. I would like to be helpful but am so upset I can’t stop crying. —Not Feeling At All Great A your distress is understandaBLe. Your granddaughter’s pregnancy is life changing and a reminder that “life is what happens while you’re making plans.” But after the initial shock and disappointment, the fact that you continue to be so distraught raises a red flag. It signals that your granddaughter’s pregnancy touches on some personal issues for you. I wonder if the fact that you are such a young great-grandmother and a young grandmother implies that there is a family pattern: The pregnancies of both you and your daughter occurred, evidently, at a young age. You probably have experienced the disappointment of missed opportunities: perhaps your own college education or other unfulfilled dreams. Were you hoping that your granddaughter would break this pattern and live out your hoped-for youth? Give this some thought, as it may lead to an aha moment that could explain your uncontrollable grief. Your daughter’s punitive response sadly adds to the turmoil and indicates that she has unresolved feelings of her own. Why is she angry at her daughter? Is she feeling guilty? Has she been available to speak frankly to her daughter about sexual matters? Does she resent that her daughter followed her path with an early pregnancy? Did she educate her daughter about sex and contraception and sexually transmitted diseases? Or was 32 GRAND AUGUST 2009 Click and connect to more resources instantly where you see this symbol:
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Contents
GRAND Central
You Can Get Anything That You Want
Woodstock '09: Still Rockin'
We Were Stardust: We Were Golden...
Yakety-Yak
Crafty Grands
Ask GRAND
Dual Personalities
The Toy Box
Love Is Messy
Resources
GRAND Finale
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GRAND Magazine - August 2009 - Woodstock '09: Still Rockin'
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GRAND Magazine - August 2009 - Yakety-Yak
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GRAND Magazine - August 2009 - Crafty Grands
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GRAND Magazine - August 2009 - Ask GRAND
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GRAND Magazine - August 2009 - Dual Personalities
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GRAND Magazine - August 2009 - The Toy Box
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GRAND Magazine - August 2009 - Love Is Messy
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