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CONNECT WITH GRAND
GRANDParenting rules of engagement
BY DR. BOB WRIGHT AND DR. JUDITH WRIGHT
W
hen you think back to your own grandparents,
what comes to mind? Knitting, aprons, and rocking
chairs? Phone calls on holidays? Pop-pop reading
the paper and offering you a stick of gum? Granny serving up a
roast for Sunday dinner? How about sitting on Grandpa's knee,
Grandma's hugs, or the smell of cookies baking in the kitchen?
Nowadays, as Baby Boomers and even Gen-Xers reach middle
age, Grandpa rides a Harley and gets his news from Google, while
Grandma has a tattoo and cooks kale and quinoa instead of ham.
We've gone from rocking chairs to rock and roll...and a lot has
changed about how we grandparent.
And a lot hasn't, yet . . .
While we might be more open than our own parents or grandparents, many of us have learned the hard lesson that texting is
the only way to contact the grandkids, yet we still may not overshare on social media or feel as comfortable with electronic communications. In turn, our kids have stopped turning to us (or Dr.
Spock) for parenting advice. Now it's all about "mommy blogs"
and "parenting hacks" they've found on Pinterest. And anyone
who's seen a four-year-old open an iPhone app knows most of
our grandkids can run circles around us when it comes to navigating tech.
It can make our advice feel unwanted or even obsolete.
Many of us walk on eggshells. We're afraid of coming on too
strong or saying the wrong thing. We see a lot-and caring
without being able to do anything is painful. Many grandparents we talk to express a deep fear of ruining their relationships with their adult children and facing limited access to
their grandchildren.
What can you do to open up your relationships with your adult
children and grandchildren? How can you keep from overstepping
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SEPTEMBER OCTOBER 2016
your boundaries as Grandma or Grandpa, yet still be an active and
involved grandparent? And how can you continue to live a GRAND
life-fully engaged in every moment and every relationship, risking
being real, and living courageously and with purpose?
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